College Admission: Getting In Doesn’t Matter If They Can’t Stay In
[/caption] It can seem like getting into college is the biggest challenge these days. Unfortunately, getting in is only the beginning. The real challenge is staying in and graduating. Years ago, I had a student, J.P., who graduated in the top quarter of his high school class. He was thrilled to be accepted by a number of colleges and he selected a small liberal arts school about three hours away from home. At graduation, everything looked perfect. His future was just as he imagined. But when I saw J.P. in October, things were different. After sitting down in my office, J.P. began explaining that he had been expelled from college for drug problems and he would be enrolling in community college for the winter term. J.P. wasn’t involved with drugs in high school and his father was a prominent doctor in the community. How could this happen to a good student? J.P. admitted that he wasn’t ready for the sudden freedom and responsibility he had in college. He also wasn’t prepared for the extremely liberal and permissive culture he found at his college. He quickly fell in with a drug-using crowd, justifying to himself that “everyone is doing it” and “this is just part of college.” Within the first month of school he had a few encounters with campus security. And by mid-October he had been arrested, charged with drug offenses, and asked to leave the college. I know students can have trouble adjusting to college life. I understand sudden freedom can be too much for some students. I just never expected a good student like J.P. to be one of the first of his graduating class to have to drop out. As the excitement of high school graduation is behind us and students are enjoying the summer before heading off to school, it is essential to plan ahead for the challenges of college life. J.P.’s situation stands out in my mind because it was so unexpected. I’ve had a number of former students with more predictable college problems. As you are in the college planning process, watch for these foreseeable issues:
- In over their heads. Some students are thrilled to be accepted at one of their “reach” schools only to find themselves struggling to keep up academically. Other schools can put students in over their heads socially. Look for a good fit in all areas.
- Not ready to live independently. Some students just aren’t ready for the responsibility of living on their own. Other students, especially those who finished high school early, aren’t ready for some of the social dynamics on campus. In these situations a year or two at a community college may help. Some students do better living at home and attending a university within driving distance.
- Academically unprepared. Unfortunately, a high school diploma doesn’t indicate readiness for college-level work. Some students skated by in high school without learning foundational material and they need remedial classes before they are ready for university work.
- Financially unable to finish. Too often I’ve had parents tell me, “If he gets into ____, we will find a way to pay for it.” The family that can barely afford the first year of college is often unable to keep up with tuition increases. I’ve seen too many students who had to leave their dream schools after one year because they were unable to afford it.
- Lack of motivation or purpose. Yes, some unmotivated high school students find their purpose and passion in college. Others seem to drag out the process – changing majors, dropping classes mid-semester, and making excuses for lack of performance.
- All fun; no work. I think we all have heard of some kid who partied his way out of college. It happens more frequently than parents like to admit. Sometimes good kids fall into a party crowd at college; other students are a party waiting to happen no matter where they attend.
- Bad fit. I’ve worked with students who insisted on applying to schools that didn’t fit — academically, socially, politically, geographically, financially, etc. As much as these students tried to make these schools work, a bad fit in any area makes it very difficult to stay. A great student at the wrong school will be unhappy and unproductive.